Considering most men possess the uniform goal of wanting to sleep with women, the idea of purposely making a girl your friend seems entirely contradictory. However, depending on your intentions friend zoning a woman can serve as a seduction technique, an “investment” opportunity, or simply a wise move. Below I offer three reasons why you should friend zone a woman.
1. Women Never Get Friend Zoned
The feeling of knowing you are stuck deep within the constraints of the friend zone can succeed in driving any man crazy. However, a concept that I eventually grew to understand was that men do not have to prove themselves to women. Rather, we have the option of being the selectors and deciding if a woman is worth courting. In other words, the woman has to prove herself to us.
Now, this mindset often produces wannabe “pick up artists.” They preach the idea of being the “selector” as they develop an unfounded ego rooted in the idea that women should be chasing them. This is delusional, and most of these men use this idea as a security blanket so they can avoid taking risks and doing what it actually takes to succeed with women; failing a lot.
Either way, the major point here is that women never get friend zoned; especially attractive women. So, when you purposely place an attractive woman in the friend zone it has the effect of blowing her mind.
One of the great advantages of friend zoning a woman is you can be overtly sexual, flirty, and tease her and this is all OK because you’re just friends after all. In a sense, friend zoning a woman reverses the roles and for once, the man is in a position of power. From there, it’s up to you to decide when you’re ready to cross that line.
2. They’re In Your Social Circle
When I was in college my two roommates and I became close with three sorority girls. Before long, one of my roommates started dating one of these girls. There was no official title, but they were spending a lot of time together. Two weeks after that, that same girl started to cry when my friend tried to hook up with one of her sorority sisters at a party. A week after that, none of us ever had the opportunity to hang out with any of those girls again.
It’s an incredibly simple concept, but it’s one that I didn’t come to understand until late into adulthood: don’t hook up with women in your social circle. Hooking up with girls in your social circle will lead to nothing but awkwardness, ruined friendships, and headaches. Instead, use your girlfriends as wing women.
For example, the mere act of going to a bar with female friends serves as wonderful social proof. That is, if you’re trying to meet women at a bar and those women see you with female friends you instantly become more trustworthy.
I’ve also had female friends set me up with their coworkers or friends of theirs that resided outside of our social circle. As long as I treated these ladies with respect, everything went smoothly even if it didn’t work out between us.
Beyond being set up, female friends can simply bro it up with you and help you be more outgoing in social situations. A simple, “Have you met my friend Seth?” has become my friend Dana’s go to line in bars.
3. They Have Hotter Friends
Recently, I met a stunning woman named Jessica who was well spoken, friendly, and kind. Unfortunately, we had no chemistry. Instead of getting frustrated over our lack of chemistry, I asked for Jessica’s number and instantly friend zoned her. Considering Jessica was usually drooled over by guys, I looked like a self-assured, confident man for being able to restrain my desire for sex in light of making a real friend.
After friend zoning Jessica, I told her I wanted to set her up with my friend and shortly after she started inquiring with her gorgeous friends on my behalf. Considering we were just friends, her recommendation of me to her friends was glowing. Thus, when I invited Jessica and her friends to my apartment for a pregame there was zero work involved. All of her friends already wanted to hook up with me purely because they trusted Jessica.
In the end, friend zoning women might seem contradictory, but sometimes a touch of logic and some patience can go a long way in your social life.