Adesua Etomi-Wellington, a Nigerian star actress and wife to popular R&B musician, Banky W, has narrated her struggles to get pregnant and how she lost her twin pregnancy in a revealing testimony.
The beautiful actress said she initially had troubles getting pregnant, however, lost her very first twin pregnancy when she eventually got pregnant. She revealed she was trolled and shamed before the pregnancy.
During her routine check-out while she was carrying the twins, she said she visited the hospital as usual, only for her to find out the babies in her womb were no more breathing. She said the doctor told her she couldn’t find their heartbeats.
Adesua said she busted into laughter because she was confused and didn’t know how to react when she was told the news. But when she got home, she started wailing and filled with sadness.
In her words;
“We got pregnant with twins and we had gone for the scans and we had seen the heartbeats. At this point, very few people know when this happened. Every report you have heard is a lie because nobody knew when it happened. We saw the heartbeat and everything was okay.
“During a routine checkup, we went back to the hospital to have a scan, and I just saw the doctor’s face ― you know when something is wrong; sometimes you can tell. The doctor was scanning, and I asked, ‘what is wrong’ but she said nothing.
“I looked at the nurse’s face and she looked a bit funny too. I asked what was wrong, and she said, ‘Adesua, I am looking for the heartbeat.’ I asked, ‘for two of them?’ And she said yes. I am actually not going to lie, I started laughing because it did not make any sense to me. I was like, ‘what do you mean you can’t find the heartbeat of both?’ She said ‘Yes’. Banky was not home at the time, so I went home and I remember being in our living room. When I was at the hospital I was laughing; I was like ‘God knows’.
Adesua added, “When I got home, I literally collapsed on the floor and I wailed. Wailing is not the same thing as crying. Wailing is a deep groaning in your chest. It is like a nut that you cannot get rid of. I am sharing this because so many women go through this but nobody talks about it because it is almost like a thing of shame for whatever reason and I don’t know why, because you don’t control your body; you don’t create yourself.
“I want to give a shout out to every single woman that has gone through IVF. I know what you have gone through. I have veins in my hand that no longer work; they are so traumatized that you cannot get blood out of them. IVF is a very tasking thing ― emotionally and physically on your body, mentally it is very tough.
“It was very tough; it was very hard. I was going through it while going through the fact that every day I will hear one rumour or the other. Some said I was barren, some said my husband was impotent or I had done something to my womb. It was very hard, but I am saying this because I promised God that I would and there is nothing anybody can do to make me shut up about the goodness of God.
“It is funny how we can accept that the other organs might need help; you can get a heart transplant, you can get help with your kidneys, but when it comes to the reproductive organs, it is like a dirty topic nobody wants to talk about. I think it is really important that we talk about it.
Adesua made all these known during a chat at The Waterbrook Studio while sharing the testimony of God’s goodness.
Banky W and Adesua welcomed their first child earlier, a baby boy christened Zaiah, this year.
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