My ex-husband changes my perception about calm, quiet people – Kaffy

Dancer, Kafayat Shafau, popularly known as Kaffy, says her matrimonial ordeal with her former husband, John Ameh, changed her world view and outlook about certain aspects of people and their disposition.

She said Ameh made her scared of calm people because of his actions despite his reticent demeanour.

The award winning dancer made this known during an interview with Chude Jideonwo while speaking on her marriage travails.

She said Ameh made her question her worthiness because of his philandering disposition.

she said, “I thought at the beginning that I had found someone to completely make me happy. But, that was selfish thinking. No human being should be one’s source of happiness.

“When you see him (her husband), you will think he can’t even hurt a fly because he is always calm. He has actually made me to be afraid of calm people. I held him in high regard until I had to ask him why he was treating me the way he was. I asked him what he had against me that was making him sleep around, even with my best friends. I knew that if I really loved him, I had to let him go.”

The dancer also stated that she started healing after she stopped sleeping with her ex-husband. She said, “I started getting more healing when I stopped sleeping with him. I was celibate in my marriage for three years before getting a divorce.”

Kaffy added that the domestic violence she witnessed between her parents made her feel that marriage to Ameh would bring her happiness.