- Yomi Fabiyi has warned against getting married if some important things are missing.
- The actor stated that the world is now filled with inattentive parents who spend a bulk of their time on social media instead of paying attention to their kids. The kids in return take parenting advice from the internet.
- Yomi Fabiyi added that in a union, self control is key so violence isn’t the order of the day, stating that that is the only reason he believes a marriage should end.
Controversial Nigerian actor, Yomi Fabiyi, has said that domestic violence and gender-based are grounds for the dissolution of marriage.
He stated this via his social media page while reacting to the viral video of Akwa Ibom-based lawyer, Ekere Ebong, who physically assaulted his wife at night.
Fabiyi who is a father of one also said that parents now spend too much time on social media instead of their children hence why many of them seem to be lacking discipline.
The actor and activist noted that beating a woman turns him off, which is why he had never begged any woman to forgive her partner for assaulting her. He said:
“Marriage is not for everybody. Only a few have gone through proper home training lately. Most parents are on social media than in the lives of their children and teenagers. These wards, too, are on several toxic and criminal blogs every minute they are awake.
“These blogs raise and mentor these kids. The percentage you invest in raising your child will be commensurate to how you benefit from the same child. Say no to domestic violence.”
“…As for me, it is only when you physically assault your partner, particularly a man beating a woman you lay with that I will suggest immediate separation.
“Beating your lover turns me off. I have never begged a woman whose husband or fiance beats to reconcile. It’s not my thing. I don’t fancy such men (even though most claim they got provoked). Hear me out. My reasons include:
“First, you don’t hurt what you love. Secondly, the easiest way to find yourself in body bags is through domestic violence with partners. Thirdly, if kids are involved, it will destroy them. It is a serious abuse.
“Only a small fraction of such children will grow not to believe violence, torture, etc, are means of solving issues. Fourth, even if you are not caught, your hands will be stained with blood, and you are a murderer if you fight/beat to death.
“I would rather prefer you involve the Police immediately if you think your wife or girlfriend exhibits traces of violence or provoking you to turn violent. Self-control is key. Anger is controllable. Just act lawfully before you become a criminal. Don’t give that partner the chance to provoke you so that you turn into a beast or woman beater.
“If you indulge in violence and think involving the police is extreme, the moment you start trying to defend yourself and things go south, then you will realise the police will involve you, prison will embrace you and the very people you are considering will turn their back on you.
“Violence will never produce love. Most lovers who make up after violence are hoodwinked, motivated, or controlled by something else but not love. Love, don’t stay where it is tolerated. Love, don’t grow where it hurts.
In a similar post, Nigerian businesswoman and ex-wife to actor Blossom Chukwujekwu, Maureen Esisi, has advised young people against getting married.
The brand influencer asserted that marriage is a scam in a series of posts on her Snapchat account. She also listed important things to consider before walking down the aisle with someone.
Esisi said people should prioritise morality over religion, but still engage in sexual relations with their partner while still courting.
She said couples should learn to save money for a rainy day, and it is in a man’s interest not to marry a liability for the sake of love.