- Pastor Femi Lazarus had spoken about the importance of controlling emotions when married and while being in a partnership.
- He also revealed that a lot of women give excuses of their periods to act in a silly and rude manner.
- Skuki peeshaun however countering Femi Lazarus’ statement, stated that it is normal for a woman to feel cranky while on her period
Relationship coach Skuki Peeshaun offers a new perspective on emotional expression in women, challenging the views of Apostle Femi Lazarus.
The apostle had previously suggested that menstrual cramps should not lead to mood swings in women, citing biblical figures Esther and Deborah as examples of resilience despite such challenges.
This assertion was met with mixed reactions, particularly from women who experience significant hormonal changes.
However, Skuki Peeshaun, through his social media platform, presented the idea that emotional variability is a natural aspect of womanhood.
He articulated that while men’s irritability or anxiety is often rooted in external and psychological factors, women’s emotional states are influenced not only by these external factors but also by inherent biological processes.
He elaborated that a woman’s emotions can fluctuate unpredictably, with her waking up feeling tense or irritable without true cause, or alternatively, feeling exceptionally joyful and caring.
Peeshaun emphasized that while some may perceive women as overly dramatic, it is crucial to acknowledge the profound influence of biological factors on their emotional well-being.
In his statement, Peeshaun highlighted the importance of understanding and accepting these emotional shifts.
He advised that when a woman experiences such moods swings, it is not beneficial for a man to engage in arguments or belittle her feelings. Instead, he should maintain a firm yet non-confrontational stance.
This approach, he believes, not only respects the woman’s emotional state but also provides the stability she seeks.
Peeshaun cautioned against encouraging men to react defensively to their partners’ natural mood variations, as this could make the situation worsw, leading to increased tension and conflict.
In his words:
“When a man is crasky or anxious, his anxiety is 100% external and psychological (which means he is worried about an issue and it is working him up) But when a woman is anxious, her anxiety can be external and psychological like a man’s, but she now has an extra burden, which is that her anxiety level can also be INTERNAL AND BIOLOGICAL and this is caused by the hormonal variations women go through every 28days.
“A woman can go to bed very happy and wake up, tensed, short-tempered for reasons she doesn’t even know. Other times she can be overly happy and nuturing for no visible reason. Yes, it is true that many women are dramatic to the extreme, but we can not downplay the impact a woman’s biology has on her mood.. unannounced.”
“We have to let men know that it is normal for a woman to dramatic to a certain extent, when she displays this off-moods, he shouldn’t argue with her or talk her down, he simply needs to stand his ground and be firm.. but no scolding or arguing.
His assertiveness would calm her down again, Infact that is what she came for in the first place. His masculine firmness. If we go with this narrative, we would encourage men to snap back and nag whenever their woman is having this NORMAL-MOOD-SWINGS. And when a man responds that way, it adds to his woman’s anxiety. They’ll now be like 2 women arguing!”