“You have no business with marriage if you’re not man enough to pay all bills” – UK-based Nigerian woman

• UK-based Nigerian woman, sparks online debate on traditional gender roles in marriage and finances.
• She firmly opposes bill splitting in relationships, emphasizes that men should fully cover household expenses.
• She suggests discussing financial roles early in relationships and believes a man not willing to fully support his family isn’t ready for marriage.

A UK-based Nigerian woman with X handle @proudnursemj, has ignited a spirited online discussion about the traditional roles of men and women in marriage, specifically in terms of financial responsibilities.

The nurse expressed her firm belief that men should be solely responsible for covering all household expenses, rebuffing the idea of bill splitting in a relationship.

@proudnursemj, who identifies as non-feminist, argued that the concept of splitting bills within a romantic partnership should be thoroughly discussed early in the relationship.

She stressed her strong opposition to women sharing financial responsibilities with men, emphasizing that it makes no sense to her regardless of the percentage involved.

She suggested that any man unwilling to fully support his family should reconsider marriage.

The nurse went on to highlight how African men, influenced by foreign cultures, were increasingly adopting the practice of bill splitting, which she found to be concerning.

She clarified that she wasn’t suggesting that women should not support their partners or families but believed that such support should be voluntary, not obligatory.

In her words;

“This splitting bills is a very important discussion!!! It should come earlier in dating… I personally I’m 100% against any woman splitting bills with any man! I don’t care the percentage! It will never make sense to me… Yes it’s reasonable to support the family where necessary!

But splitting bills???? like giving me a percentage to cover is BS! & I’m 100% not doing that! If you’re not MAN enough to take care of a Family you have no business getting married! I’m not a feminist btw… so I believe in “Man is the head of the family”. Be a man! Period.

“Most African never liked the idea of splitting bills with their wife, they found it ridiculous, but small years abroad, they start copying other people’s culture. I’m not saying as a woman don’t support your home/partner…

I’m saying it should be optional not mandatory.. & most reasonable women will always support their partner… I’ve heard women from other culture love African men because they provide and don’t expect them to split bills… that doesn’t mean they don’t support the men.”

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